Bethenny Frankel Before and after pictures are quite disturbing. The 'Bethenny' host looks like she's aged a decade in the last few years.  Bethenny, 43, doesn't look aweful, but the health guru looked so much more youthful before she turned 40 due to her stressful life.

Remember when Bethenny Frankel turned 40 on her reality show 'Bethenny Ever After?' Though she was freaking out about the huge party that her then husband, Jason Hoppy, threw for her, she still looked gorgeous and happy.

Now, the mother of  3-year-old Bryn looks scary skinny, tired, and unhappy. What made the RHONY star age so quickly?

First, there's having a child in her 40's which though is normal now in Hollywood, biologically it must be way more stressful and tiring than when your in your 20's.

In addition, Frankel's talk show rating aren't great. She is constantly #14 in the day time talk show ratings, and even her loyal viewers are shifting towards watching Queen Latifah.

And then there's her tumultuous divorce with Jason Hoppy. After all of the love that was documented during her two reality shows after Housewives, it must be a real bummer to have to admit the relationship that she raved about so much didn't work out.  Kind of embarrassing.

Bethenny is trying to move on, but the divorce with Hoppy just won't conclude and gets more heated as the days go by. The divorced pair still live together, constantly reminding her of her failed marriage.

The exes are in a eud over receiving full custody of their daughter Bryn.

A judge has actually prohibited Hoppy and Frankel from secretly recording each other to gain the upper hand in their ongoing custody battle! He's been secretly recording Bethenny's Skinny Girl staff and Bryn's nanny though TMZ confirms that Bethenny is not guilty of pulling the same dirty trick. The of use tape recorders, cell phones or computers to record each other is now officially off limits for Bethenny Frankel and Jason Hoppy. It's going to far!

According to RadarOnline a source close to the couple said, "In what world does Bethenny live in where she thinks Jason would just walk away from Bryn? It's clear to Jason that Bethenny once she had their child, she got what she wanted from the relationship and she walked away."

"Anything he can do to push her buttons, it's being done. She can't steamroll Jason," the source added.

"They hardly speak to each other, but when they do, it's nasty," the insider said.

Bethenny Frankel looks so stressed. Once Hoppy is out of her apartment and she gets her ratings up maybe Bethenny can return to the beautiful energetic woman she was in The Real Housewives Of New York.